If You've Got A Problem - Song Tutorial
The My Body is My Body Programme is designed for children from 3 - 8 years olds.
How to use this programme:
Keep it fun -
The songs are fun, positive animations, introduced by a character called Cynthie, this should help you to keep the message simple. Sing along, do hand movements or dance, anything to make the message memorable.
Keep it simple -
Young children do not need to know any in depth details of abuse just give them simple rules:
1. Nobody should be hurting you
2. Nobody should be touching your private parts
3. Nobody should take photos of your private parts
4. If you have a problem tell somebody
5. Don’t keep secrets if someone is hurting you
6. Tell someone if you are being bullied
Keep it positive -
The main objective is to empower children so they feel positive about their bodies and safe in the knowledge that they have someone to talk to if there is a problem.
Cynthie’s text from the video
It is really important to tell somebody if someone is hurting you or touching your private parts, even if you feel scared or embarrassed you need to be very, very brave and tell someone.
There are so many people to tell, Moms, Dads, Grannies, Grandpas, Aunties, Uncles, Teachers, Cousins, Neighbours, parents of your friends, police, nurses and many more people around you.
Now if you tell and people don’t believe you, they might even tell you to keep it a secret - but then you go and tell someone else. If they don’t believe you - then you tell someone else and you keep on telling till someone listens to you. Don’t ever, ever give up!!
Song 4
If You’ve Got A Problem
Song Objectives
To reinforce the learning of telling someone if there is a problem and if that person doesn't listen keep telling till someone does listen
Give children a list of all the people they could talk to if they have a problem for example:
Mom
Dad
Granny
Grandpa
Older Brother
Older Sister
Aunty
Uncle
Teacher
Principal or Head Master
Neighbour
Policeman
Mentor
Please add anyone else you feel that it is safe for the children to talk to.
Telling somebody about problems can be one of the hardest things to do for children as it might be difficult for them to try to explain what their problem is, and they may also be afraid how you might react.
When we talk to children about telling someone, we need to prepare them for what reactions to expect: (This would only be for the older children)
a) Grown ups may be offended, angry, shocked or scared
b) They may not believe the child
c) They may threaten the child not to tell anyone else
The main lesson to get through to the child is that if someone does not believe them or does nothing about the problem to tell somebody else and keep telling until someone listens to them.
Feelings:
It is important that children know about how they might feel when telling about a problem - these points might help them:
a) You might feel embarrassed - but it is OK
b) You might find it hard to find the right words, but just explain the best way you can
c) Your heart might beat fast and your voice might shake
- but just take a deep breath and talk slowly
d) You might find it easier to tell a little at a time over a few days
e) You might find it easier to write down your problem and give it to someone
Tell them to find the best way that they feel comfortable to tell someone and to never give up till somebody listens and helps them.
Activities
1. Get the children to draw people that they would feel comfortable talking to if they had a problem.
2. Write down as many people that the children can think of to tell about their problems
If You’ve Got A Problem - Song Lyrics
If You’ve Got A Problem
You don’t know what to do
Go and tell somebody
Till they listen to you
You’ve got to find someone
To tell your troubles to
If You’ve got a problem
Find someone who’ll listen to you
Talk to your Mom or Dad
Gran or Grandpa too
Your Aunt or your Uncle
or a teacher at school
You’ve got to keep on telling
Till someone listens to you.
If you’ve got a problem
Find someone to tell it too
If someone has hurt you
You don’t know what to do
Go and tell somebody
Till they listen to you
You’ve got to find someone
To tell your troubles to
If You’ve got a problem
Find someone who’ll listen to you
Talk to your neighbour
Your mentor at your school
Someone you know or trust
Sharing problems is a must
Just keep on telling
till someone listens to you
If you’ve got a problem
Find someone to tell it to
If you’ve got a problem
Keep telling till they listen to you
Written and Animated by Chrissy Sykes ©1989 Update 2017