Say "NO" To Secrets - Video
The My Body is My Body Programme is designed for children from 3 - 8 years olds.
How to use this programme:
Keep it fun -
The songs are fun, positive animations, introduced by a character called Cynthie, this should help you to keep the message simple. Sing along, do hand movements or dance, anything to make the message memorable.
Keep it simple -
Young children do not need to know any in depth details of abuse just give them simple rules:
1. Nobody should be hurting you
2. Nobody should be touching your private parts
3. Nobody should take photos of your private parts
4. If you have a problem tell somebody
5. Don’t keep secrets if someone is hurting you
6. Tell someone if you are being bullied
Keep it positive -
The main objective is to empower children so they feel positive about their bodies and safe in the knowledge that they have someone to talk to if there is a problem.
Song 6
Say "NO" To Secrets
Song Objectives
To teach children NOT to keep SECRETS
Secret’s are a child abuser’s best friend...
The abuse flourishes in secrecy and allows the abuser to keep
control of the child.
This is why we need to teach children NOT to keep secrets. Teaching about good and bad secrets can be difficult to explain - so keep it simple
and have a “No Secret’s Rule” in your family.
Instead you can talk about surprises...
Surprises are about FUN !!
For Example - We will not tell Mommy or Daddy what we have got them for their birthday as it is a surprise!
This is a scenario where children are not having to keep it quiet for too long, and it has a positive outcome.
as well. All too often well meaning Grandparents or Aunts and
Uncles will say have some sweets but don’t tell Mom or Dad - it will
be our secret...seems harmless, but it is showing children that it is OK
to keep secrets
Most people that sexually and physically abuse children have some sort of relationship with the child, with over 90% of these being either part of their family or part of a close circle of friends.
They could also be trusted people in your community. People who you know and feel happy to leave your child with. Pedophiles spend a lot of their time not only grooming children but grooming families as well.
The abuser will start testing the child with small secrets - this way they can see if that child will keep silent and they will also start to form a close bond with them. Once they feel comfortable that the child is under their control they will progress further with the abuse.
By having the “No Secrets Rule” rule takes this power away from the abuser!!
Try to get your family involved with the “No Secret’s Rule”
Say "NO" To Secrets - Song Lyrics
I’m not gonna keep your secrets
We’re not gonna keep your secrets
I’m not gonna keep your secrets
We’re not gonna keep your secrets
If you try to hurt me
I’m gonna tell on you
Come on everyone
We’re gonna tell someone
If you try and do things I know are wrong
I’ll be strong
I’m gonna tell someone
I’m not gonna keep your secrets
We’re not gonna keep your secrets
I’m not gonna keep your secrets
We’re not gonna keep your secrets
If you try to bully me, I know that’s wrong
I’m gonna tell someone
We’re gonna tell someone
We say “No” to secrets, We say “No” to secrets,
We say “No” to secrets, We say “No” “No” “No” “No”
I’m not gonna keep your secrets
We’re not gonna keep your secrets
I’m not gonna keep your secrets
We’re not gonna keep your secrets
We say “No” to secrets
We say “No” to secrets
We say “No” to secrets
We say “No”
With the Say No To Secret’s Song it will give you the opportunity to reinforce a few things the children have learned with some of the other songs in the My Body is My Body Programme
1) If someone tries to touch your private parts say NO and tell a safe adult, do not keep it a secret.
2) If someone does something to you that makes you feel bad, feel uncomfortable or touch your private parts, or if they tell you to keep it a SECRET - ALWAYS TELL A SAFE ADULT and keep telling till someone listens to you and helps you. The children will learn who to tell in the song (If you’ve
got a problem tell somebody)
Here are some things that an abuser might say to a child:
a) People won’t listen to you.....
Tell the child - DON’T BELIEVE THEM
b) People will say it is your fault....
Tell the child - DON’T BELIEVE THEM
c) People won’t love you any more...
Tell the child - DON’T BELIEVE THEM
d) You are going to get into trouble....
Tell the child - DON’T BELIEVE THEM
e) I am going to hurt you if you tell....
Tell the child - DON’T BELIEVE THEM
f) I will hurt someone in your family....
Tell the child - DON’T BELIEVE THEM
Tell the child - ALWAYS TELL A SAFE ADULT
and keep telling till someone listens to you and helps you
Let’s make sure that children are not caught in the secretive web of abuse. SAY NO TO SECRETS !!
Activity
Get the children to write down a list of what would be a surprise and what would be a secret.
(some ideas to discuss)
THESE ARE SOME SECRETS PEOPLE MAY ASK YOU TO KEEP:
•if they are bullying you
•if they are saying mean things to you
•if they are hurting you
•if they are using social media to be mean or bully you
•if they are trying to get you to do things you know are wrong
•if they are trying to get you to lie to your parents or family
•if they are trying to touch your private parts
•if they are doing things that make you feel uncomfortable
Can you write down other ideas?
IT IS OK NOT TO TELL ABOUT A SURPRISE
•if it is someone’s birthday present
•if someone has a surprise party planned
•if someone special is coming to visit
•if you are making someone something
special for someone
•if you are going on a trip or holiday
Can you write down other ideas?
Written by Chrissy Sykes and Alexia Schoeman
Animated by Chrissy Sykes ©2019